Our snazzy Readers & Writers group participant Stephen Hancock is a wise old soul in a young mans body. At only twenty he encompasses the ideal attitude towards life. His combination of optimism and realism make him a fantastic adviser (and general human). He often draws upon his own life and school experiences, as an individual on the spectrum and with ADD. Read on for some great words on dealing with unpopularity:
Advice for dealing with Unpopularity
By Stephen Hancock
So you're at high school and you're trying your hardest to fit in.
You see all the "cool kids" and think to yourself "I wish I could be one of them."
You're trying your hardest to blend in, and yet despite your efforts you can't quite seem to fit in.
All those popular kids just don't seem interested in you, or worse make you the butt of their jokes.
At this point, you might start asking yourself "Is this really worth it?"
Well firstly, you might want to ask
"Why do I want to fit in with these guys?"
If you're trying to fit in with them, because everyone else wants to, chances are you're doing it for the wrong reason.
If there's any crowd you should try to blend in with, it should be people who genuinely like you and appreciate your friendship. After all, that's what a friend is supposed to be. Someone who respects you and will be there for you.
Don't bother trying to befriend someone who is clearly not interested in you, they're almost certainly not the type of person you want as a friend.
It's better to have a few friends who like you for who you are than to have a lot of "friends" who have with little interest in you. So remember, the next time you're trying to get someone's attention, be sure to ask yourself. "Why am I doing this? Do I really want this person as a friend, or am I just following the crowd".
If you're doing it for the latter, you're probably not choosing the healthy route.